Spiritual Dating Tips for the Consciously Aware

"Love Stones": Love, Beauty and Rose Quartz

Rose Quartz represents Love, beauty, peacefulness, forgiving,
lovingness, self-love, emotional balance. Soft. Gently soothes and
warms heart center. Emotional healing, loss, stress, hurt, fear, low
confidence, resentment, anger. Slowly eases childhood
traumas/neglect/lack of love, low self-esteem. Aligns mental,
emotional, and astral bodies. Deeply in tune with emotional states.

Its value as a nurturing friend cannot be overstated. A soothing
influence. Helps diffuse negative stimuli and uncomfortable memories.
Helps us discover the ability to love ourselves and makes us more
open to other people.

It is of particular value in helping us to forgive ourselves,
hastening self-acceptance. Helps us realize that all change is
important, even difficult change. Stimulates love and tender
appreciation of all things. Advantageous for the heart and
circulatory systems. Also helps the cleansing organs. The
reproductive organs may become healthier. Said to help increase
fertility. Recommended for those suffering from low self-esteem.

Andrew Pacholyk, MS, L.Ac.
http://www.peacefulmind.com/order_crystals.htm
Therapies for healing
mind, body, spirit

Love or Romance Crystal Grid
Making a Crystal Grid

We've chosen the word "grid" to be associated with our intention for deliverance of healing and/or prayers for specific reasons. The word "grid" itself implies a strong structural foundation meant to sustain and consequently deliver (with focused and amplified intention) that which one desires or, in another words, provides a cohesive structure meant to both augment and aid in the delivery of specific energetic intentions such as healing or prayer. According to Wikipedia the definition of "grid" as it relates to Metaphysics (the arena we are dealing in along with the specific intention of spirituality) is:

"Grid (metaphysics): That which binds all of the metaverses and their contents together."
Crystal grids can sometimes be more powerful than using a single crystal for an intended goal. To build a Love grid, chose crystals that channel the loving compassionate energy into your life, such as Rose quartz, Garnet, and clear crystals.
Crystal grids are made by the placement of stones in a geometric pattern for the specific purpose of directing energy toward a goal. The stones or crystals are then charged by your intention and energy.
Crystal grids can be used to direct energy toward a desired goal.



This love grid is designed to generate love all around you! Use it for:
" Romantic Love
" Self-love, self-esteem
" Loving family environment
" Friendship

This quartz crystal is so powerful in opening the heart at so many levels that it often needs amethyst to calm things down!

Rose quartz is a stone of unconditional love. Calming and reassuring, it gives one an appreciation and love of self; it opens the door to sensitivity and strengthens empathy. It restores trust and creates inner harmony.

If you have never received love, it will open a path; if you have lost in love, it will offer comfort. If you have been damaged by an unhealthy relationship, it will strip away negativity and replace it with self-trust and self-worth.

Some of the ways rose quartz can be used to attract love:

• Place a rose quartz sphere in a location where you want to draw love all around you.
• Use a rose quartz wand to focus energy and intention on your soulmate. (Read more about how to use gemstone wands.)
• A rose quartz stone under the pillow at night will keep you young and bring the love of your dreams to you.
• Perform a love ritual using a rose quartz heart. The heart carved from rose quartz is a powerful love symbol.
• Use a rose quartz egg to make love grow or bring fertility.
• Wear rose quartz jewelry to attract love or to develop more self-love.

"Love Stones": Sexual Energies and Carnelian

Properties: Sexual relations can be the most intimate and satisfying

communication two people experience. Yet sex is difficult for people

to talk about, let alone improve, when problems occur. We are all

sexual beings. It is important to acknowledge and always celebrate

this fact. We are sexual beings so it's natural that we are sexually

attracted to others.

This stone represents confidence, boldness, initiative, dramatic

abilities, assertiveness and outgoingness. Precision, analysis,

stimulates appetite, encourages celebration and brings awareness of

feelings. It is the stone of passion and sexuality and is associated

with the Sacral/Spleen Chakra. This stone helps you feel anchored and

comfortable with your surroundings. Provides a connection to the past

or to historical events. Carnelian can improve motivation. Helps one

achieve greater success in career or personal matters. Helps ground

people who meditate. Carnelian is one of the most helpful crystals

for healing trauma, stress and emotional wounds that have accumulated

in the etheric body or the Aura and are now manifesting as physical

symptoms.

Folk Remedies: This stone is one of the best for fertility issues.

Carnelian is believed to warm, cleanses and purify the blood of the

liver and kidneys, stimulate appetite, emotions, passion, sexuality,

physical energy, reproductive system, menstrual cramps, arthritis,

gall bladder, pancreas. Historically also used to pull excess fever

out through the feet. Carnelian is said to strongly influence the

reproductive organs hence its connection to the 2nd Chakra and is

excellent for lower back trouble.

Feng Shui: Carnelian is used in the Center area for harmony and

balance, in the South area for success, in the West area for

creativity and in the Southeast area for self worth.

Crystal Cleansing: This stone should be cleansed under luke warm

water once a month. Carnelian should be charged in the sun for 24

hours. Crystals react and energize by the light of the moon. The

fuller the moon the more energized your crystal becomes. I would

recommend your cleansing to be on or near the full moon so that the

light can absorb into your crystal.

History: Carnelian is a form of Chalcedony (jasper) quartz, (SiO2).

This stone does not have the typical lattice, usually found in

quartz, but is formed from the dissolving of other minerals

containing silicates. These closely packed fibers form in concentric

circles or parallel bands. Carnelian comes in a variety of colors

ranging from red to orange and, in some cases, even dark brown.

Carnelian is one of the oldest stones used in jewelry dating back to

3000 BCE and was found in Egyptian tombs. Gem quality carnelian is

called "Sard", which refers to the ancient Greek and Roman

word "sardius". Carnelian is one of the stones found in the

breastplate of Aaron.

Andrew Pacholyk, MS. L.Ac

http://www.peaceful mind.com/ sex.htm

Therapies for healing

mind, body, spirit

"Love Stones": Heart Healing and Rhodochrosite

Properties: Gentle and yet probably the most vibrant loving stone to
heal the Heart Chakra, especially for giving/receiving love.
Rhodochrosite is the "Stone of Love and Balance". Also for
loneliness, loss, heartache, fear, insecurities, inner-child issues,
abuse and incest. Helps self-forgiveness, deservingness and trust
issues, spiritual and self-love, desire to live and purpose. Best
worn 24 hrs. a day. Most effective for opening the hand healing
Chakra. It is used in times of transition by providing comfort and
support. Helps you alleviate irrational fears and paranoia. Will
enhance the dream state.

Folk Remedies: This crystal is recommended for the Solar plexus,
stomach (anxiety and emotional issues), food addictions, anorexia,
asthma, eyesight (especially emotional not-seeing, to avoid pain) and
thymus. Specifically used to detox/heal blood, liver, cancer. Works
in the bathtub to de-stress the body. A very beneficial stone for
those with asthma or other respiratory illnesses. Helps you filter
out the irritants that trigger respiratory difficulty. Also purifies
the circulatory system and the cleansing organs, especially the
kidneys. Suggested to be used in conjunction with Malachite or
Copper. Rhodochrosite is used for clearing and balancing.

Feng Shui: Rhodochrosite is used in the Southwest direction for love,
relationships and partners and any area where there needs to be a
shift or transition.

History: Electromagnetic, Rhodochrosite (MnCO3) is a fairly recent
discovery in the mineral kingdom it was discovered in Argentina just
before World War II. Also found in rare shades of orange and pink.
Has stripes of various width in shades of white. Most come from the
US or USSR. Because remnants of this stone were also discovered
during the time of the Incas, it is sometimes called "Inca Rose".
Today, rhodochrosite is used as an industrial mineral in the
production of alloy steel and for floor and wall tiles.

Andrew Pacholyk, MS. L.Ac
http://www.peacefulmind.com/jewelry.htm
Therapies for healing
mind, body, spirit

"Love Stones": Intimacy and Garnet

Intimacy is feeling close and connected to someone (developed through
sharing and very good communications over time). Intimacy is what
makes you want to share and offer emotional and material support to
each other. Intimacy implies the desire to strengthen our moral
character in a relationship. It allows us to find and keep, as well
as show our best side to others.

This stone symbolizes faith, love, devotion and trust. Garnet is most
famous for balancing our emotional states. Therefore, garnet is one
of the best stones for soothing emotional stress and balancing out
anger that is held in and not expressed. Therefore, garnet is good
for those who have anger issues directed to themselves, NOT for those
who spew anger like venom or attack others with their anger (think
orange or yellow stones for this condition)!

Garnet is a stone of passion. It is given as a gift of love's
attraction, a gift of estranged love or a gift of quick return. Red
represent love and helps the aspirant to strive for improvement in
moral conduct. When Garnet is used in conjunction with the pituitary
gland, can help provide past-life information. Should be placed on
the center of the forehead. If carried around in the pocket and then
placed on the forehead of another person, closer ties will form with
that individual. Garnet is a stone of commitment.

Garnet has been used for protection against the perils of travel. It
encourages a strength and therefore, personal power, which increases
success, a victorious attitude and sparks the energies of creativity
through our kundalini starting at the base of the Root Chakra.
Garnet's emotional connection makes it most effective when placed at
the 2nd or Sacral/Spleen Chakra. Known to balance out sexual energy
by both increasing libido or decreasing sexual addiction. Garnet is
known in Indian mythology for persistence, stamina and energizing the
Kundalini fire (our fire of eternal metamorphosis).

Garnet is a good stone to have around for emotional drama, traumatic
crisis or when you feel backed into a corner with no way out. Garnet
will show you the way out. It is the perfect stone for clearing the
Emotional Layer of the Aura. Utilize its strong support energy.
Anyone dealing with depression, should always carry a piece of garnet
with them as it encourages feelings of joy, hope and will power. Its
fiery color drives away fatigue and stimulates the imagination.

Folk Remedies: Emotional states are connected to the water element,
which are connected to the cycles of the moon and tides and
therefore, has a strong relationship to a women's menstrual cycle.
Therefore, garnet works well with blood issues. It was believed to be
helpful with problems of poor blood circulation and strengthens the
heart both in a physical manner and metaphysical approach. Garnet
warms and energizes physically (and emotionally) when treating
arthritis, frostbite, paralysis and is a good grounding stone. It is
a remedy stone for exhaustion, low blood pressure, detoxing and
strengthening blood, muscles, kidneys, gallstones. Stimulates life
force and sexuality, hormone balance, antibodies, fertility, and
brings vitality during the catabolic process. Hidegard Von Bingen
prescribed garnet to strengthen the heart. Avoid if excess anger,
impatience, high blood pressure, heat, or inflammation. Used for the
assimilation of vitamins and minerals.

Feng Shui: Garnet should be used in the Northwest corner for travel
or in the Center area for grounding, balance, good health,
spirituality and protection, in the North for personal journeys,
victory and success, and in the Southwest for partnership (always use
two stones here).

Crystal Cleansing: This stone can be cleansed and discharged of
negative energy every month (after the menstrual cycle is complete
for women) or at the full or new moon. Cleanse this stone by running
it under warm water and charging it over night on a crystal cluster,
preferably quartz, in a bowl of tumbled hematite or most beneficial
is allowing it to be cleansed by the light of the full moon for 24-48
hours. Garnet can be charged beautifully in the sun for a day.

History: Garnet, K (SiO4)3 + another metal, this stone ranges in
color from deep emerald green through yellow, brown, and red
(interestingly enough, never blue). They each have a different name
according to color. (See below). Common to the US, but found all over
the world. Garnet comes from the latin word "granum" meaning grain or
seed-like. This name was derived from the tiny little seed like
stones resembling pomegranate seeds, often made into jewelry. Dating
as far back as the 3100 B.C.E. in Egypt where garnet was crafted into
beautiful jewelry and beads for clothing, crowns and dinnerware. In
the bible, garnet is mentioned as one of the 12 stones in the
Breastplate of Aaron. It was believed to be used by Noah, crafted
into a lantern, which lead the ark through long, dark nights. The
ancient Greeks used garnet in its red form and the Persians
considered it the "royal stone" carving the faces of their kings in
the stone. Garnet was considered a traveler's stone, warning anyone
who carried the stone of danger unseen.

Andrew Pacholyk, MS, L.Ac
http://www.peacefulmind.com/order_crystals.htm
Therapies for healing
mind, body, spirit

"Love Stones": Love, Empowerment and Kunzite

Properties: Kunzite is a powerful, high level stone. It is used
against negative energy and empowers positive and loving thoughts.
Most effective on the Heart Chakra , it opens the emotional heart and
spiritual heart. It represents unconditional lovingness and
compassion. Used for healing abuse/loss/addictions. Helps emotional
balance, confidence, connection to higher self and oneness. Kunzite
is also used on the Brow and Crown Chakra for the reason that it
deepens altered states: psychic readings, healing...being centered
emotionally and spiritually. Strengthens healers and teachers.

Folk Remedies: This crystal is recommended for reducing depression,
mood swings, stress, radiation. Used extensively by the medical
profession for psychiatric disorders. Good for the circulatory system
and the lungs. A soothing stone that can help you adjust to the
pressures of modern life.

Feng Shui: Kunzite is used in the North for personal growth and
journeys and in the Northeast direction for self-cultivation and for
removing obstacles.

History: A member of the Spodumene family with lithium. Pink, clear
in color (the green version is called Hiddenite). Kunzite (LiAlSi2O6)
gets its color from manganese. Kunzite has been dubbed the evening
stone due to the fact that it fades in bright sunlight. In addition
to being pleochroic, it is sometimes phosphorescent.

Andrew Pacholyk, MS, L.Ac
http://www.peacefulmind.com/love.htm
Therapies for healing
mind, body, spirit

* Amethyst - calming and cleansing; growth spurts; disappointments; bad dreams

* Apache tears - grief stone; hold up to light and see through it; absorbs negative emotions (then it will cloud)

* Aventurine - relieves shyness; opens lungs; opens heart

* Carnelian - self-esteem; skin ailments (hold over skin and move it in circles)

* Clear quartz - all purpose healing; burns off negative emotions; crystal clusters are good in bedrooms; amplifies inner light

* Rose quartz - hurt feelings; soothes negative emotions; calms hyperactivity; self-love

* Lapis lazuli - balances psychic gifts; encourages one to be open to spiritual insight; protection

* Jade - calms overwhelming feelings; achieve goals;

* Tiger Eye - grounding; protection; pulls dreamers back into their bodies; puts thoughts into action; practical (good while shopping; not so materialistic)

* Pyrite - protective stone; reflects negative energy; physical empowerment; abundant love; relieves fear and terror

Crystals for Love

* Amethyst – a master healer; purifies and transmutes negative energy and improper karmic patterns into a spirit of cooperation. Balance during major transitions. Opens the Heart and Crown chakras. Heals losses.

* Aquamarine – Strengthens one’s resolve to take command and live your life’s purpose. Protects your emotions. Dispels fear.

* Carnelian – The self-esteem stone; Good for recovery after rejection. Transmutes sadness. Encourages enthusiasm. Boosts sexuality.

* Emerald – Prosperity stone. Softens arrogance and promotes organizational abilities. Cools the heart and promotes divine love and peace.

* Gold – a master healer; symbolizes the purity of spirit. Activates one’s higher potential. Promotes inner beauty and energy. Eliminates feelings of inferiority, depression and anger.

* Jade – Fidelity stone; Keeps the peace in community and relations. Improves self-worth. Excellent for recovery after an unpleasant experience.

* Hematite – Emotional support and stress stone; protects the heart against wounding. Reflects back negative energy. Reduces stress. Grounds love energy. Good for blood circulation and helps reduce leg and back pain.

* Pink Kunzite – Open the emotional heart. Relieves emotional distress. Provides peace and stimulates sensuality. Dispels loneliness.

* Malachite – clears the heart of negative experiences by unblocking and absorbing the energies. Helps dispel fear and break free of old love patterns.

* Rose Quartz- Builds confidence through self-love. Excellent for abandoned, victimized types. Softens hard hearts. Brings beauty to all things. Promotes harmonious relationships.

* Ruby – purifies love. Promotes the focus, selection and attainment of love objectives (health, happiness, wealth). Encourages bliss and enhances the dream state. Protects from unnecessary suffering in love.